My 91 year old mother, who has early to moderate dementia and lives in AL, is incontinent. She leaks a lot. She goes into the bathroom at least twice a day for 30 minutes because she is washing out her underwear and changing clothes. She absolutely REFUSES to wear a pullup or even a sanitary pad. We've tried explaining she smells and it's unhealthy. Sometimes she denies she leaks but when we call her on that, she just gets quiet. She's always been someone who worries about what others will think and so you'd think she wouldn't want to smell. But that isn't the case. She refuses to acknowledge she has this issue. The AL staff has suggested we take all her underwear away and replace it with pullups. We know she will pull a nutty if we do this so we've resisted. Suggestions? Thanks!
he never asked for regular undies again.
he is now in AL with mild to moderate dementia, but he’s totally ok with the disposable undies, and he definitely needed them. (He has C-diff still... after being treated once. ) it’s going on two months with Vancomycin. The throw away undies were a MUST!
I am just mentioning this because there is a long list of oils that dogs cannot be exposed to. I do not know if you have any pets in your home.
My mom insisted on using just incontinent pads because they're so much cheaper than the disposables, and they never quite did the job - she always leaked, which resulted in having to launder every single day. She also has bowel incontinence, which was even worse - she would just tell me, "Oh, just wash them out in the sink, it'll come out." I gave that a resounding Oh Hell No, and took away all of her cloth panties and started buying disposables.
I got grief about it for about a week, and then she finally accepted the expense. Now, my mother doesn't have dementia, and I'm sure her ability to think it out helped her to come to grips with it. It may be different in your case, but if the AL staff has made this suggestion, I'd run with it, and "blame" them for it if you don't want the Wrath of Mom to be directed at your head. (As a courtesy, tell the staff that you plan to do that beforehand. If they're decent folks, I should think they wouldn't mind.)
Like a two year old, she'll get over it and get use to them. Loving discipline
Cant take a chance on getting an infection
Now, help me with my husband who wears pull ups, but wets in corners, in the kitchen, in the trash can, in the garage, etc,
Good luck.
men never had to wear protection growing up. So it’s difficult for them. He was stubborn. He checked himself out of AL. 2 times.
Praying for you🌟