Getting her to dropping the tissue in toilet is difficult. She just doesn't want to wipe herself. I think she knows better but when you ask her she just wants to pull he pants up and keep going. She doesn't like the wet feeling against her bottom so she'll pull them off and get another pullup. I'm thinking if she knows to get another one and put it own why can't she go to the bathroom. Sometimes she's good other times she just doesn't and I don't know if it's just not clicking with her or she's just using the pads and not putting in the effort.
I took him to a close family function (his), and on our way back home, he told me he liked those people, they were all so friendly.
Then one knows that they cannot help themselves and it makes one understand it better, because often they don't make sense.
Not clicking vs. not putting in the effort. I vote for not clicking based on what you wrote. You said your mom doesn't want to wipe but then you said that she wears pullups so I'm kind of confused on whether she is continent or not.
When she goes to the bathroom go with her and hand her a wad of tissue and tell her not to forget to wipe. Always have gloves nearby in case she hands you the soiled tissue.
We all know that people with dementia gets worse and when they do we have to step up our game as well. This might be a new phase for your mom. It sounds like you might have to start overseeing her toileting habits.