I feel so helpless. She had suchers from a previous surgery start breaking through her skin and they became infected. she was operated on and was on antibiotics that caused her to get sores all over her entire body and because of the painful sores she used her arm too much and tore a tendon and now she is in rehab with a horrible roommate who complain about me calling in daytime hours because it wakes her up. Complains about her having a light on in the day so she keeps it dark and the roommate blast tv all night and poops in bed all day and has the room so stenchful it is agony to visit. she Complained my Mom snores but she snore so now she tries to stay awake. I can't get them to move my Mom to another room My Mom is saying she feels like she is dyeing she won't eat and wishes she was dead. I don't know what to do. I want her home but She is beyond my care now. she is so sick on her tummy and they say eat bus she can't . they are refusing her pain meds cause she is not eating and she is my ONLY family without her I am alone in the world. I feel so depressed and it is so bad I broke out crying at work and don't know what to do. I want her to be able to get home with me again
That allergic reaction can get worse each time she takes that antibiotic. The reaction itself become life threatening. I have a friend who survived it but it was truly nasty, involving skin grafts and permanently closed tear ducts.
((Hug))
That being said. even if your Mom won't complain when you get there and the room mate has made the room unbearable get right on that call button and ask the nurses to do something about it NOW not next week. If nothing happens ask to see the nursing supervisor and complain. if no one shows up in half an hour ask again and if no one still comes go down to the front hall and knock on every door till you find someone who will talk to you and demand the room mate be cleaned up.
How old is your Mom is she really close to death. Calling hospice is an excellent idea as they can advocate for Mom and improve her condition.
As far as not eating and not getting pain or other meds there is no excuse for that. She has probably been getting antibiotics and that upsets stomachs so you feel nauseous and loose your apetite.
You sound as though you and your Mom find it difficult to stand up for yourself. Do you have a friend who is not easily intimidated by authority who would go with you to visit and demand action. The other thing you can do is ask to see the Dr at the N/H and ask why your Mom is not being properly taken care of.
You can also contact your Mom's own Dr and explain what is going on and ask for advice. If it is at all possible I think your Mom should be receiving hospital care she is not fit to be in rehab in my opinion. This makes me so mad when I hear of this kind of substandard care and neglect and I am sure others will agree with me. Hospice may be the best way to get the fastest help because they will not tolerate this kind of care for their patient. Call them tomorrow and keep us posted
When the room mate keeps the TV on late at night tell Mom to call the nurse and ask for it to be turned off that is if she doesn't have a controller herself
It sounds like you need to contact a hospice. If she's in the downward spiral it sounds like she's in and she thinks she's dying and wants to die, she's probably eligible. Give a local hospice a call and ask for a consult.
Good luck to you. I'm sorry you're both having this trouble.