Mom asked me to move in with her & dad a couple months ago & I agreed but can't move for another month. Since then every thing I mention of bringing with me (my own mattress/springs, TV, photo albums, bicycle,...) she gets upset & says I don't need to bring those because she has a TV & bed I can use & she doesn't want to look at old photos!
They have a four bedroom house & she has designated one bedroom & one of their three bathrms for me to use. She also does not want me to put anything in their garage, attic, or any other rooms. I currently live alone in a three bedroom house.
And speaking of not wanting to use their own money, I use to have to run my parents all over hill and dale for appointments, shopping, CPA, haircuts, you name it, and take time off work to do so, plus use their car which I disliked driving with a passion.... it use to irritate me to no end because my parents could have afford to hire someone to drive them :P So much resentment on that part because I developed major panic attacks while driving during all those years, and to this day because of that my driving range is just one or two miles.
The thing we had to remember is that she could NOT learn anything--her ability to make new memory was gone. There was not a whole lot anybody could do except to get a home care person to get her meals and generally keep things up as well as possible. She fell once, and was found by a neighbor; but wound up back home after she rehab. Her daughter took her in but she kept trying to leave and walk home (60 miles). I will admit she was one of the very few people that I would lose patience with; she would keep asking the same impossible thing over and over and over...the key was that nothing got through to her. Finally she was found in her home by her daughter one morning. As frustrating as it was, it was merciful that she was finally at peace.
Sometimes people do change for the better if they reach a point where they forget their most annoying behaviors, but just remember that people with memory issues do not learn, so the odds are that they will not change their attitudes.