My Mom has dementia. I live with her and she does go out with my friends and I but has been expressing a desire to meet a gentleman.
She is in the beginning stages of dementia, has problems hearing, and gets dizzy from an inoperable brain tumor she has. But, she is a fun, loving, but lonely woman.
There are activities for her but they are during the day, and I dont feel comfortable with her limitations, her going places without me.
Does anyone have any ideas? My father passed away 9 years ago and it took her this long to want to meet someone, and I am totally clueless on what to do.
Help?
Doctors, nurses onsite.
Other adult daycares would know how to take care of your mom, and funding can be available. Bus even picks them up and helps them.
It is very rough because Mom not only has dementia, but an inoperable brain tumor and she gets dizzy and falls very easily. So, most places will not want to be responsible, which I totally understand. Anything that she would go to, I would have to be there with her.
I am not looking for someone for her to "marry" just someone she can sit down and watch a movie with, or share the type of music she listens too.
We are looking for a caregiver at home for her, and also will be meeting with a representative from the department of aging. SO,hopefully, I will have more ideas. :-)
I suppose you could take her to a senior citizens center or a church who has senior programs, or an Alzheimer's group?
I am sorry that I could not come up with something better, but as I said I would not encourage it.
companion. The number of men is so much smaller than the number of senior citizen aged women. I think your mother needs to face the fact that this ship had probably sailed.
My father was a widower from the age of 55 yrs and had opportunities to find his own "companion" or second wife. He chose not to enter the search. He said he could not "replace" his first wife and didn't want an unhappy relationship. He avoided senior citizen groups and trips because the numbers of widows to widowers was so out of balance. Being the only man at an event he found very uncomfortable although he always enjoyed the company of women.
Everything I find is during the day and I work during the day and cannot take her to places. Also, with her limitations, I dont want her to be there alone.
Thanks for any suggestions you can give.
AL with activities may actually be enjoyable for her. Some romances do spark, if not at least there is company and activities. You can still break her out on weekends for a little extra fun.
If socializing would entice her to AL, it may be a good thing, as the disease advances she will require 24 x 7 care, which as many in this site would advise is too much for at home, particularly for sole caregiver