She has been in nursing home for two years, she has never adjusted and cries most of the time and begs her children to take her home. It is so very sad, she just sits and hold my hand and lays her head on you, like she needs hugged. I was a caregiver for my husband till I couldn't move him in bed. I am thinking of bringing her to my home and see how she does. She is going down and I think she will die of a broken heart. Any advise? She is on medication for depression.
Many people with dementia want to leave the place where they are, but it is not really a physical location they have in mind ... it is back to the good ol' days when they were in their right minds and the world made sense. If that is what someone wants, changing locations is not apt to solve the longing.
Has she been evaluated? What is her primary ailment? If it's dementia or depression, she may not be properly medicated. It seems odd that she would appear that sad if she was properly medicated for depression. I would have that checked.
And Babalou is right. I would find out what she's like when you are not around. Could you arrive when she's doing some activities when she doesn't see you are there and observe her with others? You might see that she is fine when you're not there.
If you still wanted to try it, you might take her home for weekends, though, I would be cautious to do that. If her being in your home is not a good fit and then you have to return her, it could be a bad scene.