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Also, are you & your wife going out to work? Mixing with others a lot? There will still be a Covid risk in your home - although you can have more control.

Wear masks outside. Shoes off at door. Wash hands immediately when home. Change into inside only clothes. Wipe all groceries. Regularly disinfect light switches, taps & doorknobs. (I'm sure you have your own routine... our family does & so far so good).

How about a compromise of Mother in your home but home aides for a few hours too? (Masked of course).
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We are blessed in that we are both retired. Home aides might be an option to consider. The issue is it has been the home aides that have spread the virus in some of our seniors care homes where we live, with tragic results. That was several months ago and people are getting smarter about hygiene, distancing, and proper PPE etc but I like the idea. Right now she is fairly able. She will take a shower if we ask her. She needs help with meds and meal preparation. We couldn't leave her alone over night. A selfish concern is we travel a lot. Having said that, family members may chip in and take Mom if we are on a holiday where she can not accompany us.
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No, you're not crazy. In fact, you and your wife sound like good people who love your mom.
Before you decide to move her into your home think about it. Is she happy where she is in her apartment at the AL? If she is, then let her stay there. Is it possible for her to come to your house and stay for a couple of months instead of moving in?
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Thanks. She is not happy. It is all very sad and the idea of her being left alone there really tugs on our heart strings. The entire facility is locked down because of a Covid outbreak. She is not allowed to stay out overnight. Visits are extremely limited. She relies on us to take her to church twice a week. She has in the past stayed with us for a month or so and we really did not mind it...I think a hard part for us is what happens when it is time for her to go...when we can no longer take care of her? It is such a great unknown for us filled with apprehension and sadness. One of life's nastys.
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There is no perfect solution in these crazy times.

You can go crazy with worry with Mother in AL, locked up & lonely. Or you can go crazy taking care of Mother fulltime.

I suppose just choose the crazy you want? 🙃
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Yup. That about sums it up Beatty :)
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I can understand why you may want to move her in with you in your home. I want to do the same for my LO, but I need a lot more help than I suspect you do. It’s a huge responsibility, but, I get it. To me, if it’s doable, I would do it, if you have the resources and set up. I’d explore what level of care she’s getting now, so you can determine if you feel comfortable with outside help coming in. Does she need help bathing, dressing, toileting, etc? Does she have sleep issues that keep her up at night. Does she resist care? Will she become demanding and invade your privacy? Do you have ramps, grab bars in bathroom, even flooring, etc. I’d consider all potential issues in advance.

Lots of people post on this board that moving seniors into their home was a huge mistake. I realize that, but for me, I want to bring my LO home, if at possible to make her comfortable and at peace, even if it is very difficult. Would she have more social interaction at the faculty? If she has friends and strong bonds with people at the AL, she may have more stimulation there than in your home. What does she say about it?
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