She throws tantrums, screams non-stop, wets herself and refuses to go into a Behavioral Rehab. 5 different Doctors have said these actions are all her choice. She's been seeing a Therapist for over a year but refuses to change. She has been in a Behavioral Hospital 4 times this year because she was violent and repeatedly hit my sisters/father. How do we care for her? An in-house nurse is not an option because she has bankrupted my family.
She has been on several different medications but nothing seems to work. She never calms down. Her screams have caused neighbors to call the cops. What do I do?
I would push for getting to the root of the problem, especially since the meds are not working. Are you sure she takes the meds? Not to be mean, but until her problems are resolved, I don't think she really gets a vote in refusing to get help and/or change (which I don't think she really has much if any control over). With her violence and over-the-top behavior, she is certainly a danger to herself but mostly to others. It is not a safe place for the rest of you. I would get her back to her doc ASAP and nicely but firmly demand that SOMETHING be done.
Personally, I could not live with someone like that. She needs professional assistance, much more than you and your family can even consider giving her.
If it's ever in a really really bad place, you could always call 911 to have her taken to the ER and then let them know how bad her behavior is and refuse to take her back home. At this point, it is NOT her choice. She does not appear to have the capacity to make choices of this importance at this time.
Behavioral issues are sometimes caused by physical issues. Brain tumors, Wilson's disease, demyelinating diseases spring to mind.
Get her to a Board certified neurologist or psychiatrist at a university hospital for a complete diagnostic workup. I'm glad to hear that she doesnt have dementia.
ALL of the physical possibilities need to be ruled out before someone says that these behaviors are " her choice".
Thank you for your suggestion. I do appreciate it.
The therapist says this is her way of punishing my family for moving on with our lives while she is still miserable. Though she did choose to move with us she has not wanted to actively participate in her life.
This is my weird thought. Have folks pray for her, you, and the family. Prayer does seem to help people... even folks that don't believe.
I think of the nuns at my school who always instructed us to turn to God but not be lazy and expect God to do everything. We were told to pray to do well in school but it was our responsibility to study and work hard for our grades.
What level of care do her psychiatrists recommend ?
She is only diagnosed with Depression and Anxiety. She has never had issues with any mental health conditions up until this time last year.
Can you video tape her and show her psychiatrists the tapes? If she is bankrupt can she apply for Medicaid to receive free mental health help? I hope all of you, including your mom finds peace soon.
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