She then asks us for more - now what? She has only SS, no house, car or investments, and lives in an apt. I can't add up what I know she spends and figure out how she runs short. My brother told her no today; says he can't (she asked him only 2 months ago), and I gave her some before she asked him.... So now just stop? I am unable to oversee her; she won't let me, and he doesn't want to and lives far away. Social Services helps her and I am grateful, since she won't work with me; only wants me to be a taxi and step and fetch it..... she's been like this always, so I don't think there's any dementia - any suggestions, or just let it be and don't let her slave me?