My dad, who is currently living with us, is pretty self sufficient, but needs help with banking. I cook his meals and provide him with his medicine. But he is very stubborn and won’t drink his water/juice during the day or listen to other advice I provide. Is now the time for him to go into assisted living?
You can lead a horse to water as they say.. 🐴🐴🐴
I put a small glass of something on the table & let the horse decide.
I have seen a nurse mark a glass with a marker pen - you have to drink down to this line by lunchtime. But the really stubborn/spirited will *accidentally* knock it over.
Don't confuse Assisted Living with a Skilled Nursing Facility. AL is for fairly independent seniors who require minimal help with Activities of Daily Living *ADLs*. In reality, nobody can force a senior to do things they don't want to do. If your dad goes to AL, you can sign him up for the medication program (for a fee) where the staff will dole out his medications to him on a schedule, however, so they'll stand there and make sure he does take the meds.
Good luck!
Most people make that hard decsion when their loved one is no longer safe in their environment, and is a danger to themselves. I'm not sure that the fact that he doesn't want to listen to your advise is reason enough, but again, only you know how much more you can take.
I can only guess that the fact that he is your father, that he really doesn't feel like he has to listen to you his daughter. And who can blame him? He was used to you having to listen to him for all these years, and now that the table is turned, it's probably very difficult for him.
You have to do not only what is best for your father, but also what is best for you. Best wishes.