My aunt committed fraud, how do we tell her boyfriend?
My aunt committed fraud. We just found out this week, she died in March. We don’t no how to tell her boyfriend who is 73 long time veteran. He’s going to be devastated, he knew nothing of this that she took out money from his account they had separate accounts. She took out $5,000 plus per month to give to my lazy cousin who does not work. I guess my aunt did this for two straight years, we don’t no how she got his account or anything. So how are we going to tell him? It’s going to really devastate him. My Aunt is not the nicest person, never liked her or my cousin so now what to do? She took over $67,000 in total from him and gave it to my cousin like I said she doesn't work lazy A**H**. My Aunt pays for everything, her bills, vacations and medical bills she has no insurance, very greedy pays for several cars and other necessities. It’s a mess how should we tell him? I feel bad for him he never knew.
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And who is watching the boyfriends accts that it was not noticed that in 2 years 67,000 was taken. No one may inherit the house if he files against the Aunt. Its an asset and there maybe a judgement put against the house that the proceeds of the sell will be used to satisfy it.
1. How did YOU find out about the fraud? Through law enforcement? Other means? If law enforcement informed you, what was your role in your aunt's life, and why did they contact you, if you're not a victim?
2. What documentation do you have? You make a lot of serious allegations against your aunt, especially in her alleged donations to your cousin.
3. What action are the police taking against your aunt? They're the ones with the knowledge and assets to follow up on any theft.
4. Why and how do/did you have access to review "his account", which I assume means the victim? What legal authority did you have? And if you had access to review, you presumably could have detected the theft and taken action to report it. Did you, and if not,why?
There are a lot of issues alleged but not explained, with also enough complaints against your aunt to reflect your hostility toward her.
Also completely unexplained is how your aunt accessed the funds, and how this was done w/o the boyfriend's knowledge.
I'm having problems understanding not only what was done, but how, and why it wasn't discovered, as well as your role in this situation.
- the OP is involved in some way with handling the estate
- it's not hard to access bank accounts if you have access to bank cards and their PINs as well as online accounts and passwords.
- the OP may still have access to the accounts because of the two above points (that doesn't make it right though), or they may be or are close to the POA for Aunt's boyfriend.
As for prosecuting the cousin - As far as I can see once the estate is sued for restitution the matter would not likely go any farther, unless there is evidence they colluded with the aunt then they are merely guilty of being a greedy user and there's no law against that.
Can you clarify a bit further? Did you find the withdrawals and report your aunt for fraud? We don’t have the full story here.
Why are you posting this if it is being taken care of? So, the boyfriend has never been aware of his financial status?