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Mary, you say that you “cry and get hysterical at least 3x a day”. That’s probably a good reason for you not to have POA, which requires level-headed financial dealings. Your take on things is that your family members are “extremely emotionally abusive to me”. Perhaps they are, but perhaps you need help to get on an even keel yourself.
Is there somewhere or someone you can talk to about your own feelings? Sharing your problems might help you find things easier to cope with. And of course if you really are a victim of extreme abuse, it should point you towards the help you need to cope with that as well.
Mary, clearly you are suffering from abuse. You are grown now, and must find a way to remove yourself from it. If you don't feel strong enough to do that, then reach out to a good psychologist who will help you move on a new path leaving old habitual ways of acting and reacting behind you. This will be hard work, make no mistake, because as awful as habitual abuse is, it represents the NORM for some people, and new ways, new roads, new paths are extremely scary. Pat yourself on the back when you decide to address this for yourself. Only you can do it. And you will be so proud of yourself, able to move on giving your love to those who appreciate it.
I sure wish you the best. NO ONE but you can do this. Our sympathy is all but worthless, as you will know, having received, I would imagine, sympathy in the past. It's very briefly comforting, but in the long run it is hard work that wins the day in life.
I read ur previous question. Is Mom 49 or you? Why is your Dad not her POA? If Mom is competent she should assign her husband at least. Why is everyone so adamant it should not be you. Looks like everyone but you has their heads in the sand. Mom is not excepting she is terminal. Her oncologist needs to sit down and tell her what is going on. Cancer does metastasize. Could start in the liver and then spread throughout the body. Maybe the oncologist told Mom that there was nothing more that can be done and she wouldn't except it. Doctors do not recommended Hospice unless they feel nothing more can be done.
Seems that ur family is not interested in what u think or say. Mom wants to deal with her cancer her way. She has the final decision whether Hospice is brought in or not. You need to honor her wishes. Time to just be there for her and allow her to spend her final days the way she wants.
So so sorry for you! All I can say is step back and let them do it. However if mom calls for you - come - not for her but for you. I can tell from your statement that you love her so. Know that cancer is the worst, please don't let it tear your family apart. Love your family, love yourself, love your mom. Hugs to you!
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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Is there somewhere or someone you can talk to about your own feelings? Sharing your problems might help you find things easier to cope with. And of course if you really are a victim of extreme abuse, it should point you towards the help you need to cope with that as well.
My father and sister (and mother sometimes) are extremely emotionally abusive to me. I cry and get hysterical at least 3x a day.
No one will listen to me, I am thinking of walking away.
I sure wish you the best. NO ONE but you can do this. Our sympathy is all but worthless, as you will know, having received, I would imagine, sympathy in the past. It's very briefly comforting, but in the long run it is hard work that wins the day in life.
Seems that ur family is not interested in what u think or say. Mom wants to deal with her cancer her way. She has the final decision whether Hospice is brought in or not. You need to honor her wishes. Time to just be there for her and allow her to spend her final days the way she wants.
And that she, your dad and sister don't want you to have POA.
So, they've tied your hands. Let them rely on your sister.
You can visit. You just can't help them if they don't want it.
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