He needs physio but he has cognitive impairment as well. I can’t bear to leave him on his own. He wouldn’t cope without seeing me. He has relied on me for so long. He would respond better if I could stay with him overnight as well as daytime. I don’t think he would respond very well. Or do you think I should step back and let the team do their job. I’m heartbroken at the thought of him being without me.
You may be surprised to find he does surprisingly well; and you may be right that he will not.
I think no one can know until it happens (unless you have past experience to draw upon.
You have told us nothing really about your hubby. You are new here and we welcome you; just know that the more info you give us the more helpful we may hope to be with our answers.
I am assuming there is some underlying dementia here, as you say that he cannot thrive without you.
Can you tell us a bit about your hubby and his diagnosis?
Can you tell us how he has done in hospital?
Any change in environment is difficult, and here he has two changes.
When one is a caregiver one becomes kind of "glued at the hip" with the loved one.
I would voice your concerns to his current care team.
The rehab should have a caregiving conference with you ASAP and if they don't then ask for one from the Social Worker involved. This would include PT, OT, sometimes MD, dietician, discharge planning and nursing. You can here speak with them regarding your concerns.
I am wishing you lots of good luck and hoping you will update us as you go along. Meanwhile please DO allow yourself a couple of moments of extra shut-eye and perhaps a lunch out with a loved one?
I would definitely have a discussion with the facility admins.