My mom has been in a skilled nursing home for 8 years. For the first few years things were great. Then there was a huge change in personnel. Many left. Things changed and not for the good. I developed a rare spinal condition that impairs my mobility. I couldn't visit as often. I have managed weekly visits. Mom had two injuries to each hand within a week. The last gash required steri-strips but because it wasn't reported mom received no wound care. The nurse was notified by the CNA who did nothing!! No documentation or incident report, no wound treatment. It was like it never happened. Sounds like someone doesn't want anybody to know anything. Now I am worried all the time. I am all my mom has near by. I am a mandated reporter. I believe in it. My siblings, who are across the country, don't want me to report due to reprisal, like discharge. Would you report to your state authorities?
Put yourself in her shoes.
What would you want someone to do for you?
Have you consider in home care ?
Your home but someone to come do what your mom needs on a daily basis ?
how dare anyone hurt someone who is hired and paid to help and keep people safe in their care.
I too, had this happen with my dad. I was there every day, left 9pm every night and it still happened more than once.
I felt not only anger over it but I felt responsible to do it for any other person who could be abused also, and was afraid to complain.
I reported every thing every time something occurred. and I also had a police report made just in case it would be needed at a later date.
they can not throw you out because you filed a complaint with the agencies that investigate complaints of this kind. Take a look at all of the people in the nursing home. Could you feel ok with yourself knowing that this is happening and or could happen to any one of them and not do your best to try and stop it.
I know I couldn't. That is why I filed my complaints.
after filing m y complaints no one went near my dad at all. they were all to scared to. they did there job and got the hell away from him. that's just what I wanted.
most of these people are seniors whos health is declining and they have the right to live out the time they have left as care free, abuse free and happy as possible
My friend told me about Arnicare.. Cream and pill form...supposed help heal the bruising.
Whenever there is a change with a resident the responsible party is to be notified within 24 hours. This is not a matter of good policy it is the required by the Federal Regulations that govern long-term care facilities. You should have been notified of these injuries within 24 hours of the occurrence, if you were not you need to speak to the Director of Nursing and asked her why you were not notified within the time frame set by the Federal Regulations.
If you are concerned about the number of injuries your loved one is getting in the home and the staff are not addressing your concerns you have two options.
1. You can call your local Long Term Care Ombudsman Program. The Ombudsman are the Federally Mandated Advocates for residents in long-term care communities. They can come in and do an investigation and work with the home to make sure this does not happen again. The Ombudsman are experts in State and Federal law and can often time resolve issue without going directly to the State authorities.
2. You can call the Elder Abuse and Neglect Hotline and make a report. The State can do an investigation and possibly cite the community if they find the did not follow the proper protocol .
If your siblings are worried about you calling the State then start with the Ombudsman. I was an Ombudsman for over 17 years and handled many situations like this. The nursing home would much rather deal with an Ombudsman coming in and investigating this than the State. The Ombudsman can not cite a home for not following the proper procedures but can require the home to make the proper corrections. As an Ombudsman if I went into a home over a problem like this and the home did not correct the problem I would call the State myself. When I called the State and reported the incident and that I tried to resolve the situation but the home refused to make the corrections the State would usually send an investigator right away. The State knows if they home did not respond to the Ombudsman it is time for them to step in.
The last thing I would share with you is that families often worry that retaliation will happen if they report a home to the State. I can not promise you this won't happen but it does not happen nearly as often as people fear it will. There are also very strict regulations that protect residents from any retaliation from staff. The fear of retaliation is the biggest factor that keeps families/residents from reporting problems in communities.
Listen to your own voice and do the right thing. Don't put yourself in the position of regret. Your siblings in my view don't have much of a say, if they want a say maybe they should be closer.
Last week, oops, time flies... Christmas Day, I went to see her. Her arm was poorly bandaged. She scraped it, and Rose taped it with whatever she had. I took off the CVS, and bought all sorts of first aid stuff. Art finally showed up, and the next day, her arm was nicely patched. I called her hospice, and they sent down a wonderful person to analyze the wound. Her response is: The older the person is, and the more fidgety she gets, she will scratch and pick at the sore...Yup, chalk it up to dementia, and the way we go.. the body starts to wear down, or the skin can..I ran into a corner of the house, looked at my daughter, and told her : tommorrow, I will have a bruise there." She says I am bruising way too easily...
I hope you can get the truth out. If it was an accident, they should tell you exactly what happened... Thinking someone new doesn't know how to manipulate patients around without hurting them. Ask other residents or look at them and see if they have some kind of issues.
Don't know if this is good for older people: Arnicare... It is supposed help stop the bruising...
This happened to my Mom and I DID experience retribution. If I had POA and could have involved an attorney - I doubt that the staff would have pulled what they did.
This is your Mom's life and she is precious. This is where she has to live now - she should be safe, clean and cared for on all fronts - at least. This nursing facility is being paid handsomely by the government to take care of our elder loved ones, they need to monitor their employees.
CNAs have it very hard, and it is backbreaking work. It is the typical way nursing homes are staffed--one CNA to a hall. If your loved one has to be fed, chances are they will not get adequate nutrition. It takes *infinite* patience to feed one person, and if family is not there to help feed the patient they will go without. Before mom's PEG tube was put in--it took me one and a half (1-1/2) hours to feed mom a single meal giving her liquids a teaspoon at a time. No CNA has that kind of time. the LPN that passes meds has to give medications to tons of patients and they need to know if the meds need crushed and put in apple sauce, which ones whole, and which ones have PEG tubes. The PEG tube should be only a LAST resort when you really have no other choice--they will die of dehydration without it
PEG tubes are *not* cared for properly, not flushed the way they should which means they get clotted, and even get pulled out by the CNA while turning the patient and it gets caught on the sheets. The CNA will simply claim the patient pulled it when it was staff that did it by accident. Mom never bothered her PEG tube, and I used a tube top purchased from Amazon to keep it from getting caught and pulled. The tube top was very comfortable for her, and looked more like a dress. If not cared for properly, they can also get infected. So the more helpless the person, the more likely they will get neglected--*not* deliberately but simply CNAs do not have that kind of time to spend on one patient. PEG tubes also have hazards--if they are not sitting up while fed they will choke and aspirate so they require constant supervision while tube feedings and fluids are administered. You just can't leave them there by themselves -- they may slump over and choke to death on aspiration. For my mom I did daily dressing changes, hovered over mom while tube feedings were happening, established a bowel schedule (Sundays, Tuesdays, and Thursdays), used lactulose to induce bowel movements, and flushed the tube well after meds and or feedings were done. I also was able to tell if mom was assimilating the food and fluids by drawing back what was in there. Mom normally had ZERO residual. All was well. When mom had 60 ml residual I called my brother and told him mom was dying--that residual told me a lot, and how much she urinated. Mom used to urinate a great deal. When she urinated little that was a big change and that told me her kidneys were shutting down. Long before symptoms were apparent.
If they are bed ridden they need a specialty bed, and be turned. You also have to use a hoyer lift and sit them on a chair every single day--you just can't leave them in bed. It is bad for their skin, breathing, etc. Daily inspection of paper-thin skin is essential.
YES all of this is very very complicated. That was because mom's condition was that delicate. Even a nursing home can't manage this sort of complexity, so the complications arise.
I also had to monitor mom's blood sugars and insulin. I preferred insulin because I could manage her sugars very well. To the end mom's sugars were always stellar.
I had a good friend who was in a nursing home for rehab after his surgery. He preferred to stay in bed although he eventually regained the ability to stand. He developed blood clots and died..right in the nursing home. I visited most days and pushed him to stand up on his own and refused, so got clots
Every single facility that I toured and the ones that my dad were in had 2 at night and 3 during the day. Sometimes 2 if someone called in, but there was also a nurse and other staff in and out.
I am not attacking you or your personal experience, but you yourself have told us that you cared solo for your mom in her home. This doesn't make you an expert on facility care or what they look like now. Please refrain from being a expert opinion on something you have not experienced. It is hard enough to make the decision to have a loved one go into a facility. Not everyone can forego having a life of their own to serve our parent until their deaths. Not all of us want to forego a life to live for our parents, so please don't make others feel wrong because they choose differently than you did. We each have to make the best choices for our personal situations. No one is right and no one is wrong, it is situational.
As to staffing, there are state mandated standards. I don't recall if it was something like a 1:11 ratio or more or less, but that was a question I learned to ask before placement (after a bad experience at one hospital related rehab facility).
I'm sorry to learn that you've experienced poor and frustrating care, but there are some very good facilities available. After several rehabs, I found a top notch religious affiliated place for my father.
Resident: nurse ratio
Resident: CNA ratio*
The numbers were insane:
32:1 nurse and 16:1 CNA- Ohio
44:1 nurse and 44:2 CNA- Tennessee
50:2 nurse and 15:3 CNA- New York
66:2 nurse and 66:4 CNA- Illinois
50:1 nurse and 30:1 CNA- Georgia
60:1 nurse and 60:3-4 CNA- Nebraska
https://nurse.org/articles/nurse-staffing-unsafe-long-care-facilities/
I don't know if this has been suggested but take photos and I would even go as far as recording responses from the staff with your phone so the state can hear there replies to your inquiry. They need to be held accountable if they are neglecting her or are the reason for her injuries.. No one should have to put up with neglect and injuries, otherwise she might need to be moved to another facility but that might be even more drama and hard on her.
These numbers reflect these two ratios:
Resident: patient to nurse ratio
Resident: Patient to CNA ratio
The numbers were insane:
32:1 nurse and 16:1 CNA- Ohio
44:1 nurse and 44:2 CNA- Tennessee
50:2 nurse and 15:3 CNA- New York
66:2 nurse and 66:4 CNA- Illinois
50:1 nurse and 30:1 CNA- Georgia
60:1 nurse and 60:3-4 CNA- Nebraska
Nurses Say Staffing Ratios In Long Term Care Facilities Are Unsafe Read: https://nurse.org/articles/nurse-staffing-unsafe-long-care-facilities/
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Read this: " A 2014 report by the OIG found that 22% of Medicare beneficiaries in SNFs experienced an adverse event during their stay, half of which were preventable. More than half of the patients who experienced an adverse event at a SNF required hospitalization. A separate OIG report found an even higher incidence of adverse events at rehabilitation facilities. Among these are hazards that are well documented in older patients, such as medication errors, health care–associated infections, delirium, falls, and pressure ulcers. "
https://psnet.ahrq.gov/primer/long-term-care-and-patient-safety
She's right - most nursing homes are inadequately staffed and the level of care is nothing you would want a beloved parent to have to endure. I know from experience.
There are cultures which would not dream of having to place their loved ones in the hands of strangers.
There were eras in this country when elderly parents were taken care of by their adult children - it was common sense.
Apparently, the values and standards of this nation - which is appallingly evident - caters to the young and healthy and chooses to shove the infirm and aged citizens into institutions far removed from sight.
To put this matter in a more personal perspective - some day you will grow unpopular with society because of your waning ability to contribute and because of your increasing needs. They will begin to treat you as a burden and disregard all which you have worked for and lived for, the precious soul whom you are will be tossed into the dubious hands of strangers.
Becoming clear ?............................
Many places do not have security cameras Jesus!
Always excuses such as no staff, meal break etc... other times on phone texting and chatting !!
Seriously ? I'll say it again; people took their parents in when the parents grew old and needed them. The elderly parents (for their best years) gave up their freedom and personal pursuits for at least 18-20+ years to diaper, feed, clothe, suffer the pains of growth, rejection, financially support etc. etc. - all that sacrifice and devotion. And you say that it's hard for you to give back a fraction of that care towards the end of their lives . . . LOL
No, it is not true that people, in the past, just got sick and died in an instant - perhaps in a few instances- but YES Rovana - People took their elderly parents into their homes and took care of them until they died because they LOVED them and were grateful for what their parents had done for them.
Some still do.
Civilized, honest people who have their priorities straight make sure their parents are well taken care of and are involved in their loved ones care - WHETHER they need to involve skilled nursing professionals, or not.
You will be i that same position, some day. I guess you will have had your time and you will gracefully fall into the hands of strangers, you will be content to watch your children walk away and leave you. Guess that's just how it is, Right?
As to the duty of care because we were born? We were born of our parents CHOICE and cared for either well or poorly according to their abilities. It is the old eagle story. Dad eagle saving chick by carrying it across the flood asks chick if the chick will save HIM when he is old and helpless. Chick replies he will. Dad drops him in the flood to perish. Next chick is asked same question. Says "Sorry father; my duty then will be to my OWN chicks". That chick the father saves. Your duty is to your own family. If you are able and have the ability, the heart, the finances and the wherewithall to care for your elder then good on you. I personally am not capable of caring for my brother.
It is sad, but it happens.
And yes, I DO HOPE and pray that my children will walk away and live their own lives. It is what I want for them. Not to spend their most happy, carefree productive years saddled with ME, a wretch that our current medical system will use as a cash cow vending machine to line their pockets and keep me sadly going on forever.
We all have an opinion on this.
Our opinions all DIFFER. And there is not a one of us here with the RIGHT TO JUDGE another.
Nothing is ideal. Institutions or home care. There isn’t perfection anywhere.
It’s the same with anything. A child can attend a public school that can be a great school or an inferior school or a very expensive private school that can be great or not so great. We can’t generalize.
A person would be stupid to think the more expensive private school is problem free. The kids in private schools have drugs in school too. The difference? Their kids have more money to buy more expensive drugs. Sorry, if this upsets anyone but I have seen it over and over.
In one of our private schools one of the teachers smoked pot and sold it to the kids. Yes, he did this for years before he was caught. He sold high quality pot because the kids could afford it with their allowances.
Same with churches. There are no perfect churches because there are no perfect people.
When my mom was in a nursing home for rehab there were issues. There is a shortage of staff. I would hear them talking about working double shifts.
Having said that, the rehab with occupational and physical therapy was exactly what mom needed. When problems came up I addressed the serious ones and let the little things go. I see no point in knit picking. Why? As I said, no one is perfect. I don’t expect anyone to be and I grew up with a perfectionist mom. It is unnerving to be around perfectionist.
I motivated my children but I never ever wanted them to feel ‘less than’ like I was made to feel, and doing my very best was never enough. I had more blue ribbons, awards, good report cards, perfect attendance, etc. and it was NEVER enough for my mom.
Mom was the type that if I had something 99 percent right, she would point out the one percent that was wrong.
So. we should respect all staff in facilities who are doing their best, show appreciation and only address serious issues. At least that’s how I feel.
Let me tell you I could easily live in some of our assisted living facilities. They are lovely! Our nursing homes needs improvement but it’s all we have available and better than nothing.
Rather than complain, do something to contribute though. Volunteer! When mom was in rehab facility I saw fantastic volunteers, from violinists and guitarists to gospel singers.
I also met a really sweet woman who volunteered to feed an ALZ patient whose family did not live nearby. One day she asked the woman, “Do you know who I am?” The woman replied, “No, I can’t say that I do, but I know you belong to me. You come to see me and feed me.” I thought that was so special!
Yes, it can be depressing. I went daily and the same women would be saying, “Help me! I want to go home.” It scared me at first and made me cry until I realized they would be screaming, “Help me!” no matter where they were.
The ladies that were lucid and could communicate would ask me to visit with them when they saw me leaving my mom’s room. I would. They told me about their deceased husbands and their children, etc. it was sweet. It only took a short visit with them, maybe 20 minutes to bring them a bit of joy. I brought the residents not on a restricted diet a few cookies or individual ice creams just like I brought to mom. They loved it!
It’s true that addicts have adopted the serenity prayer but it really applies to all of us. It’s a great prayer, “change what we can and accept what we can’t.” Great message for all of us.
I had to report and it was not an easy decision. The home became very angry, but care changed for the better until I could get her out and into another home that was far better.
We should not have to be there every day just to make sure our loved ones are cared for properly, but sadly that it almost the universal requirement.