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What do I do? She can't lose the only home health company that puts up with her behavior. She'll end up in another cycle of nursing homes that won't tolerate her.
Be proactive and call the local police station's non-emergency phone number (not 911) and tell the them the situation: let the police know that your Mom is an alcoholic, that she had a stroke which has resulted in memory impairment and a difficult personality; and that she has been in several nursing homes but she is having to be taken care of at home; and that when she gets angry at you or at the home health aides, she threatens to call the police. Other people on this forum have contacted the police and told them about their parents' behaviors as a precaution.
During the 6 months prior to my Mom's admission to the nursing home, she would threaten to call the police whenever we had an argument or when I wouldn't do what she what me to do.
That way if your Mom (as Ahmijoy stated) does become physically abusive towards you or the home health aides, the police will be forewarned and have a better idea how to handle the situation prior to arriving to your parent's house.
Ahmijoy also mentions the possibility of your Mother having a urinary tract infection (UTI). That does cause sudden behavior changes in the elderly and even though your Mom is only 61, her health is that of an 80 year old. Has your Mom ever had a UTI?
She accused her nurse if stealing money. I think I scared her because I told her we have to budget if she wants to save, and I know that hard for her to hear. I think she is trying to find someone to blame for spending too much. I just hope that if she calls the police they realize she doesn't know better.
You are caring for both parents? You say Mom’s primary ailment is heart attack/ stroke. She has not been diagnosed with dementia? This is very typical behavior of the dementia patient. They become delusional and paranoid, not to mention distrustful of everyone, including family members and caregivers. Mom is young, at 61, to have dementia, but perhaps the stroke accelerated the symptoms.
I take it, since you suggest Mom has gone through a few caregivers, she is rather difficult? Have you spoken with the caregiver and assured them that you trust them? While it’s no fun to be accused of being a thief, caregivers are used to dealing with difficult patients. However, if Mom takes it to another level and becomes combative and physical like my mom did, you may have to start planning for a facility, sorry to say. And this time she may need Memory Care a.k.a. The Alzheimer’s Unit. She may change her mind about being difficult if she knows the alternative. And, tnere’s always checking for the UTI as those infections can completely alter the behavior of senior citizens. After decking two nurses and gouging my arm, we had my mom tested every month.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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During the 6 months prior to my Mom's admission to the nursing home, she would threaten to call the police whenever we had an argument or when I wouldn't do what she what me to do.
That way if your Mom (as Ahmijoy stated) does become physically abusive towards you or the home health aides, the police will be forewarned and have a better idea how to handle the situation prior to arriving to your parent's house.
Ahmijoy also mentions the possibility of your Mother having a urinary tract infection (UTI). That does cause sudden behavior changes in the elderly and even though your Mom is only 61, her health is that of an 80 year old. Has your Mom ever had a UTI?
I take it, since you suggest Mom has gone through a few caregivers, she is rather difficult? Have you spoken with the caregiver and assured them that you trust them? While it’s no fun to be accused of being a thief, caregivers are used to dealing with difficult patients. However, if Mom takes it to another level and becomes combative and physical like my mom did, you may have to start planning for a facility, sorry to say. And this time she may need Memory Care a.k.a. The Alzheimer’s Unit. She may change her mind about being difficult if she knows the alternative. And, tnere’s always checking for the UTI as those infections can completely alter the behavior of senior citizens. After decking two nurses and gouging my arm, we had my mom tested every month.