There is one closet and 5 drawers, all full of clothes. We had to buy a clothes rack because there wasn't enough room for all her clothes. She keeps asking us to buy more clothes and there is not enough room, I hate to be mean and say no, but we cannot fit any more things in her room.
"Mom, you have limited space, and don't need more clothes, so we aren't going to buy more for you unless there is an outfit you wish us to put in a donation bin somewhere. Love you, but you cannot clutter the room with these things".
Sweet smile. Move on.
If this is a bit of a compulsion, then you are dealing with a bit of a compulsion.
But in any case, there's nothing mean here at all.
You will now have to accept the responsibility to make her decisions for her.
Really, you should never have brought in a rack. My Mom had nine outfits. More than enough for the laundry turn around. I put tops with matching pants. Later even her bra, long story. I only had her seasonal clothing there. Her others were in a tote in my spare bedroom.
Realize your mother is stuck in a loop thinking pattern which goes with dementia, saying she needs more clothing when she obviously does not. It's not "mean" to use techniques to distract her from thinking she needs new clothing all the time. It's helping her to have room to breathe in a tight space!
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