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Thanks for starting this post. I live 2 hours from Dad and my sister lives six hours from him. First my Mom was sick and passed away and now my father is showing signs of dementia plus other common issues with elderly - CHF, COPD. I have spent almost 5 years of weekends (and sometimes weekday) visits to check on and care for my parents. I have given up time with my family, money, almost lost (or even still may lose) my job, etc. My Dads siblings live in the same town and volunteered to help with my Dad, but it is all talk no action - plus they are retired and have health issues so I do not expect a lot from them.
Everyone thinks because I have only one son and my husband can care for him while I am gone that that is ok.. I am missing out on so much. He is not a pleasant person either and smokes like an chimney so I cannot move him into my house as I have asthma and he will fall if he smokes outside. It is a mess and so dysfunctional...
Dad qualifies for community care service and meals on wheel which worked for a while on the weekdays; however, now that his mental state is worsening he fires all his caregivers.
He agreed to and was accepted into assisted living last week, but he had a fit and locked me out of the house. So I went home to my house to prepare for Christmas. Because, guess what - my sister and family and Dad came to my house for the holidays. I had wanted to go to their house with Dad so that I could get a few days break from worrying about my Dad and caring for him myself. But they came for one day, left and now I am alone again to care for Dad....my husband put his foot down and said that if they are that worried about Dad then they need to take time to help or Dad will have to be on his own. Dad told us yesterday he would agree to assisted living - but there are too many rules there so my husband does not think it will work.
I am too young to retire and my Dad and I cannot afford to hire full time help at home.
Some people may think I am selfish for wanting to spend time with my son before he graduates from high school - I want to help him get into a great college.
You’re not selfish. Your sister will not share the responsibility. Your husband had a right to be annoyed. He doesn’t want you to be saddled with everything. You have a right to be annoyed.
Dad should go to assisted living. He has lived his life and now you deserve to live yours. Your sister will not care for your dad and isn’t obligated to and neither are you. Tell him you are not doing it anymore and it’s time for him to go live in a facility.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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The doctor says, dont move your arm like that.
Everyone thinks because I have only one son and my husband can care for him while I am gone that that is ok.. I am missing out on so much. He is not a pleasant person either and smokes like an chimney so I cannot move him into my house as I have asthma and he will fall if he smokes outside. It is a mess and so dysfunctional...
Dad qualifies for community care service and meals on wheel which worked for a while on the weekdays; however, now that his mental state is worsening he fires all his caregivers.
He agreed to and was accepted into assisted living last week, but he had a fit and locked me out of the house. So I went home to my house to prepare for Christmas. Because, guess what - my sister and family and Dad came to my house for the holidays. I had wanted to go to their house with Dad so that I could get a few days break from worrying about my Dad and caring for him myself. But they came for one day, left and now I am alone again to care for Dad....my husband put his foot down and said that if they are that worried about Dad then they need to take time to help or Dad will have to be on his own. Dad told us yesterday he would agree to assisted living - but there are too many rules there so my husband does not think it will work.
I am too young to retire and my Dad and I cannot afford to hire full time help at home.
Some people may think I am selfish for wanting to spend time with my son before he graduates from high school - I want to help him get into a great college.
Dad should go to assisted living. He has lived his life and now you deserve to live yours. Your sister will not care for your dad and isn’t obligated to and neither are you. Tell him you are not doing it anymore and it’s time for him to go live in a facility.