I'm wondering how my mom will do with this move with her dementia. Mind you this is not an assisted living we would have to pay for private pay if my dad were to pass first. I really need them close to me but don't want to be selfish in my decision. My dad is 90 and my mom 89. We are very close. My mom really leans on me, calls me ALOT. (Which I love). This is an affordable solution but concerned it will make her more confused. And if my dad passes first, they can't afford independent living that has assisted living. So my major concern is will this be a bad move for my mom? Will this make it worse for my dad? Thank you
Once the move happens, come back and let us know how it goes. We really care about each other on here, since we've all been in each others' shoes.
Katsue I can't speak to the dementia portion of your question, but I can tell you having your parents closer will cut down on your stress and strain. My parents lived 160 miles away and as they needed more help, I asked them to move closer to me. They did. Mom lived up here for 15 more years and needed more and more care from me. She and my dad lived 1.5 miles away and I would have been a total basket case if they lived farther away. I would think with the support from you and your dad, your mom would be OK with the move.
Do they live in their family home now? I'm assuming they'll get meals and have activities with the American House facility, is that right? I guess from my experience, I think you're doing the right thing for your mom and dad.