However, she just changed the POA agreement taking out the bit about my brother. Now, the important part of this is my sister has forged Mom's signature - my mom is in a memory care unit and can't remember what she had for lunch let alone sign anything, it's also been notarized and the attorney has had the new POA recorded for my sister. How can this happen? Does no one validate anymore? What can I do? In addition to all of this, I've just found out that my sister is taking money out of my mother's account and charging credit cards for her own use, writing "LOAN" on the checks she writes herself. I asked point blank if she was doing this and she said "no". She has also paid herself $7,500 for "Services as POA". The POA does not state she can pay herself. I have not yet shared this with my brother and other sister and I haven't confronted the sister doing these things because my concerns are that she'll drain the accounts and/or take her own life as a result of being exposed...so I have to start from there. My brother would have absolutely no problem with prosecuting her to the fullest extent of the law as they do not have any kind of relationship. My concern really is my mom and I wouldn't want her to know what's happening or be told of my sister's demise if that's the choice she makes. What a mess and I never thought this would happen in a million years, but I guess for some people access to money is just too great a temptation.
These "gifts" your sister is taking could sadly interfere with a Medicaid application in the event Mother ever needs that. Do your best to get this straightened out sooner rather than later, for your mother's sake.