Hi everyone, I'm new here and I have a question about my nana.
She is 91 and currently bedridden at home receiving palliative care (by me and a once a day nurse). She has a morphine pump for pain.
She gave up the will to live about 4 months ago when my grandpa passed away. But we all rallied to keep her strong and eating.
However over a week ago she completely stopped eating. Has lost control over her bodily functions and has to wear a diaper now. She's confused, her hearing is worse.
We found out the other day she has a myriad of intestinal problems, including a twisted bowel, internal bleeding and strangulated hernia. Her stomach is very painful, hard and swollen. She is too weak and all her doctors refuse to operate.
She doesn't want to go to the hospital anyway. She wants to die at home and be with grandpa. She tells us all every day how she hopes she doesn't wake up. It's awful. She doesn't understand why she has to go through this.
She went about 4 days with no water and her doctor had said she would pass away before Tuesday. However this weekend she wanted apple juice. She has a bit every day. I would say 6 ounces daily. But she only uses 1-2 diapers a day. They are always dry.
She hates this. Every day is worse. But her drinking is going to drag this on, her doctor has said.
I just want it to be over to be over for her, it's day 8 and she seems the same. I guess I want to know how long this could go on for with only apple juice? She's tired and it's getting harder and harder to watch.
Just talk with your Nana during these final days. Tell her some of the fun things you did with her. Let her know how much you love her. Good luck, please come back with updates.
The small sips of apple juice might be enough to keep her mouth moist but aren't really enough to keep her hydrated.
Her body knows what it's doing, it's going through a process. When the process is complete she'll let go. It's inevitable. Until then keep her comfortable, make sure any pain she may be having is under control, and continue to give her little sips of juice if she wants it. She's on a journey now and there's no changing it.
Many hugs, hoping to send some comfort to you,
Mulata88