Complains about everything. Yells and screams on the phone and then hangs up on you. Yells and screams at her adult grandchildren. Name calling, and so much more. Likes to bully and be two faced to family and her friends. Always negativity. She's been like this for years, but the extent of it has really heightened the past 2 yrs. I'm 55 she's 77 what can I do?
If you can quietly talk to her, you may want to tell her she is going to die a lonely old lady if she doesn't change. You, ur children and really no one else needs to put up with her negativity. If things seem to have gotten worse, maybe Mom is in need of a good physical. Labs to check her thyroid, potassium, her sugar. When people don't feel well they lash out too. She could be showing early signs of Dementia too.
You are not bound by any law to put yourself in the path of oncoming abuse.
77 is NOT old, and she could live for 20 more years---I haven't seen nor talked to my mother in 3 months and I won't go see her until I feel like it. She doesn't 'miss' me, nor does she care.
Let her behavior serve as a cautionary tale--don't be like her.
What aspects of CARE does she require? Is she living in her own home? Does she drive? Does she pay her own bills? Does she shop for her needs, and take care of her own home? Does she have relationships outside of the family?
Does she have any diagnosed physical or cognitive problems?
Do you consider it your obligation to listen to her? If so, WHY?
IF NOT, STOP.