This might be a strange request, but my mother, who lives near me, is quite isolated, and only has me or my husband as visitors. She is in her 90s, and is very, VERY sharp! She is on her computer constantly, and can do just about anything from managing her finances on Quicken to posting on her own Facebook page! However, I can't get her to go ANYWHERE, except to the doctor or dentist, and occasionally, to have her nails done. She KNOWS that I will take her anywhere she'd like to go, and I've made numerous suggestions of things she might enjoy, but she always refuses. Nor does she want to have any visitors come to the house. She has no friends in this area. Recently, she has wanted to communicate with someone over the internet (no specific person, just someone to enjoy "talking" to), but I'm VERY hesitant to encourage this! Has anyone had a similar experience, and does anyone know of an extremely safe group with whom she might communicate online?
Do you have a Senior Center near you maybe you can ask if they have the same type of program if not maybe suggest it.
How about a Church or other house of worship, maybe they have a group that gets together and one of the members would like to give your mom a call once a week. And these chats could be done by computer as well. It is just nice to hear a persons voice and have that contact.
Another thought...is there a teen or college student that would be willing to "interview" mom and write her Legacy? I am sure mom has some interesting things to say and it would be great to get some stories written down. And don't forget family recipes and other things that you will miss when she is gone. This could also easily be done via computer.
Joking here...can she come and stay with me for a while and teach me computer skills and get my finances in order?!
P.S. If my mother were to come over and help you with your computer skills, you'd be AMAZED at what she can do!! I failed to mention earlier her skill on Excel! I'm always flabbergasted when I see her spreadsheets containing her doctor visits, etc.!! I'm serious!!
Can your Mom budget to move into Independent Living apartment? That way she would have a lot of people to chat in person, and she doesn't need to leave "home".
My Dad was in his 90's, still doing quite well, was also on the computer, but was so lost rambling around his home. We brought in caregivers which were a great help as Dad was able to narrow down the caregivers to those that he had a lot in common.
It wasn't until Dad decided to move from his house and move into senior living that he was more content. His apartment was no different than those that younger people rent. And all these new set of ears to hear his stories :) He made a lot of new friends there. And no more worries about dealing with his house, real estate taxes, lawn mowing, snowing shoveling, power outages, yada, yada, yada. As part of Dad's rent he had weekly housekeeping and linen service, plus meals in the main dining room.
Anyway, something to think about.
I Googled "Friends For Seniors" and came up with lots of choices, including AARP and Meetup:
Never Too Old to Find New Friends
https://www.aarp.org/relationships/friends/info-04-2011/never-too-old-for-friends.html
Meetup: Seniors Making New Friends
https://www.meetup.com/topics/seniors-making-new-friends/
I'm 73 and am really isolated, while taking care of my 100-year-old mother.
Thanks for the lead.
I am an elder care provider. I have had the privilege of hearing their stories and talk for hours of what they remember. Life is vivid. Hospice care is my calling. I've learned a lot, and my experiance of caring for them and their family has rewards beyond monetary. Please don't doscourage something she finds comfort in. There are few people who can find a friend who is familiar, and understands where they are in life.
It is comforting. Maybe you can ask her about her friend. Get involved. Ask her to share with you. You may be surprised.
It is, as the name suggests, a forum for grannies. And grandpas, of course.
Here is an excerpt from their topic list:
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I am a member myself. Although I joined seeking emergency advice last year and haven't had time to cultivate friendships, I must say their members were very helpful indeed.
Perhaps there is a US equivalent? - or if your mother might be interested in this one I am sure she would be made very welcome. You'll find them at https://www.gransnet.com/forums