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She has no money except Social Security. She has jewelry that could help for assisted living but she won't sell it. I'm at the end of my rope. We are fighting all the time. She has to go. I need some help. Please.
Debcajan, you need to post your own question under a new post so people can answer you there. It's not kosher to hijack another person's personal posting with a problem of your own. People will be glad to help, but post it it separately. Peace.
My mother gets Social Security And Va check she don't want me to go back to work and she keeps track of her money she is diving me nuts. she don't pay anything in the house. My sister called the state on me and I have POA what should I do.
Jeannegibbs gave great advice. But yes, it would be helpful if you could give us more information such as age, any dementia, do you have POA or guardianship? I agree that there are options for low income seniors with housing. Many times there are apartments available where they must meet certain income levels and maybe she will. She can also have mobile meals. If she drives, senior centers also provide companionship and often times a meal.
californiagirl, what kind of care does your mother need? I see in your profile that her main impairment is diabetes. That can cover a wide range of disabilities, from almost none to severe disability.
Would your mom be able to live independently? You mention assisted living. What kind of assistance does she need?
You cannot force her to sell jewelry or other assets. You cannot insist she move to assisted living. But you can determine who lives in your house. You can say that she can't live with you. If you are firm about that, then she has to make other arrangements.
One way you can help her is start the contact with your county's Social Services department. Ask for a needs assessment. (Be present when this takes place. Elderly parents are not always very realistic when reporting their own skills and needs.) Social Services can explain options to Mom and you can help her follow up on what seems realistic. Social Services will also know of programs Mom might be qualified for. You could help Mom apply.
Just be VERY clear with Mom and with social workers and with every one you talk to that Mom cannot continue to live with you. You are willing to help her find other options, but your house is not an option.
If she is the widow of a WWII vet, or other war, she may get assistance from the VA. A good facility will help you with the financials. A widow of a war veteran can get up to $1113 per month.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Would your mom be able to live independently? You mention assisted living. What kind of assistance does she need?
You cannot force her to sell jewelry or other assets. You cannot insist she move to assisted living. But you can determine who lives in your house. You can say that she can't live with you. If you are firm about that, then she has to make other arrangements.
One way you can help her is start the contact with your county's Social Services department. Ask for a needs assessment. (Be present when this takes place. Elderly parents are not always very realistic when reporting their own skills and needs.) Social Services can explain options to Mom and you can help her follow up on what seems realistic. Social Services will also know of programs Mom might be qualified for. You could help Mom apply.
Just be VERY clear with Mom and with social workers and with every one you talk to that Mom cannot continue to live with you. You are willing to help her find other options, but your house is not an option.