My 91 year old father lived alone but has increasing trouble with forgetfulness and daily needs. He can dress himself, walk on his own, play the piano and be very charming and with it but then he forgets what happened in the present. He makes numerous phone calls to all our siblings because he can't remember that he just called.This caregiver is trying to train my father to rely solely on him and to change things that my father used to do and that brought him comfort. My brother stayed upstairs in the evenings and the caregiver wants him out and wants us not to pick up my fathers phone calls . I
How was this caregiver hired ? Is he from an agency ? If not then get rid of him now - one person cannot work 24/7 and even live-in caregivers need days off - it usually takes 2 or 3 people to rotate days. If he is not through an agency then you are responsible for social security taxes and workers comp insurance
Siblings might be happy they are not getting phone calls now but too bad - you need to constantly check on caregivers too - who is responsible for grocery shopping and paying bills ?
So many agree with you, and not because of a few words, but because of the actual actions taken by this caregiver.
Do what you can to intervene-because what is important here is Dad, the patient.
Do not start to doubt yourself, especially when peer pressure/or sibling pressure pushes you back. The world needs people like you, who are often the early warning sign that something is up that doesn't make sense.
AC Forum is heavy with caregivers whose siblings just don't get it, and who don't want to. Siblings with their own agenda, plenty of brooms and rugs to sweep things under! The truth will come out sooner or later. Even if you are shut-down by your siblings, maybe your presence here will get one of them to take their head out of the sand.
How is Dad doing, today? What is hppening with you, today?
Similarly, take our advice, or leave it-think of us as like sisters (or brothers) who care-and do not be pressured into taking any actions against your conscious or best interests of your Dad. However, unlike family, we are not prone to ostracize you if you don't do what we say! Are we? I sure hope not.
Hoping, and now praying for a good outcome for you, your family, and Dad.
OUT, get rid of him. Family is a big part of your family's life.
Next, this care giver will have a lawyer and own anything
your father may still own or have access to financially
Beware, these care taker's can be thieves..
YIKES
I am a care giver to an 88 year old gentleman and this person
is a very dangerous person to have in your Dads life.
At 91, your dad needs loving care and that's it!!
Good luck!
If he is your employee keep records