My mother's dementia is declining and I felt it was time to place her in a NH, but I miss her and I feel guilty for doing it. This Christmas will not be the same. She loved Christmas time. She was able to make cakes for so many people. Cooking was something she also loved because it gave her opportunities to invite people over. I know the Church family will miss her cooking.
My cousin try to encourage me by saying that "at least she's not at a funeral home," but I still hurt to know that she is just existing with no mental knowledge of what is going on. I know through faith in God and constantly praying I can live in victory and not as a victim.
Thank You for allowing me to speak about my inner emotions.
If not, and she is not able to function on her own, then she would be better served in a place that meets her needs. I'm not sure what that need is, but some people need Assisted Living, some need Memory Care assisted living and some need nursing homes. Have you determined she is in the proper place? If so, then I would allow that to provide me with confidence that I did the right thing.
I understand that sometimes we have to grieve the loss of someone we once knew because they are not able to function or behave the way they used to be. That's sad, but we can gain strength and piece of mind that they are where they will be the most cared for.