Husband now in 4th facility. Baker acted due to violent behavior by police, tried sexually assaulting a female, hit 1 resident and 1 Aide. .where can he go now if he is thrown out of the 4th one? He has multiple health issues. He still knows who I am. 1st place he escaped, 2nd place he became violent, 3rd place he lured a female resident into his room and barricaded the door. She was not harmed, 4th place he lasted 3 hours and he urinated on the floor, tried throwing a vase at the front door and hit an aide. Police Baker Acted him and he spent 7 days in a mental facility.
Good luck with you husband.
His behavior issues need specific management, whether by medication, specifically trained staff, and/or alteration (temporary or permanent) of his physical environment.
The fact that he “knows” you is irrelevant at this point. Address his current behaviors, neurological psychiatric status, AND WAYS TO ADDRESS HIS INAPPROPRIATE SOCIALLY DEVIANT ACTIONS via his assessment.
You can’t address his problem(s) until you find out what they are and what’s causing them.
Lots of good luck with planning, understanding, and managing his future.
I wouldn't worry, at this point, about keeping him quite sedated. He cannot be allowed to punch, hit, abuse ANYONE, and all the patients have the same right to safety.
Has he been medicated yet? Somebody should be monitoring what he's getting.
psychologist … some dementia made much worse by the newer antipsychotic meds….like Lewy body
eith delusions hallucinations. He needs proper professional care.
seroquel worked well my husband.
all these changes making him worse . He’s very frightened confused and anxious and feels worse than anyone can imagine. By careful and honest with the new home and get him good geriatric neurologist asap.
he’s probably used to being in control is scared and trust me he doesn’t want to be like this .
I am so sorry, this must be so difficult.
The doctor increased the dosage but it isn’t working out too well. I guess it is a trial and error for the meds. My son went to see him today and told me “Dad is really mad at everyone.” I spoke to the administrator and she told me he took off his wedding band and told her to keep it. On the advice of the charge nurse and administrator I will not be going to see him. For some reason I agitate him more. I am afraid for my own safety and I will not allow him to physically or mentally abuse me.
The facility he is in now is a cross between a memory care and mental health. The other three places were only for Alzheimer’s. I wanted to put him in psychiatric hospital but so far this new place is working out somewhat. My sons get upset and say “no ma you can’t put dad in a mental hospital”. If it comes down to that I will do what is best for him and others he might harm, However, each time the phone rings my stomach gets in a knot. I never know if it is the new place or not. Thank you all for you caring and sharing.
Sending you a big hug and a prayer for strength
Maybe you should allow husband to move back home.
He would be happier living out the remainder of his life at home.
Check with his Dr and Insurance and put him on Home Health.
He'll be able to get an Aide to come by to help him bathe if needed. He will also get a Nurse to come by.
If husband has been in the Military he could get up to 30 hrs a week Caregiver help.
Prayers
We all understand your stance on nursing homes, and I'm not about to argue that your views are skewed, because I know it won't do any good...but there are people in the world with NO CHOICE but to place a loved one, and your constant vitriol against any and all nursing homes is really getting old. Enough, already.
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