talking to brick wall is about as useful as discussing it with this nurse. She just repeats the same 'concerns' about 'contamination' over and over and over. I told her mom has already endured this painful cath test last month and she's in enough pain and doesn't need anymore pain. What is this nurse's real motives? is she a sadist?
The nurse has no motives , nor is she a sadist .
I was there when my Mom got catherized. First time there was a problem. Second time they did it a little differently with a syringe type thing. The urine was brown. They don't void completely so the infection says there.
This catheterization may be uncomfortable but should not be "painful". If you are unwilling to have this done let her know and she will let the doc know that a clean catch isn't possible. To just check bacteria type to best of ability. They normally get e coli. They are attempting to see if there is something else. They can still test.
Understandably you are upset, but as an RN let me assure you that NO RN likes to do catheterization. Despite best practice and care she understands her procedure is uncomfortable and humiliating and is opening her patient to further contamination. This procedure takes her time and takes the heart right out of her. So no, unlikely she is a sadist. She is following MD orders.
Why would any competent MD ever put an 87 y.o. 25lbs underweight elderly woman on Cipro?