I've posted before, 90 y/o mother lives with me, I'm single and only living relative left. We do not get along. She has not been diagnosed, but I believe she has narcissistic personality disorder. No empathy, cruel, must have her way. Has threatened to call the police and tell them I'm abusing her. Spoke to her PCP so we have had nurse evaluation, physical therapy, and now a social worker to the house. I am seeing a Christian counselor. Mom lies during visits, blames me for everything, and nurse said she's in complete denial as her needing me to function both mentally and physically. I'm at my wits end. She is not receptive to anything and will not divulge any financial info so they can determine what help she qualifies for. Where can I go from here. I have lost my life, no boundaries in my house (she will not comply) and I'm getting migraines again. Is my only option to see a lawyer and have her removed from my house?
You may recall, that last time you wrote, someone said "this isn't going to be pretty". Well, here it is. Your mom is mentally ill. She's refusing help and "won't consider" alternate plans, nor will she consider your health. She threatens you when you try to set boundaries. And clearly, she's considered "competent ".
So, get yourself a lawyer. You need to protect yourself from your mom's health - destroying behaviors. If she's competent, she can get housing for herself, health services and the like, without your help. I suspect those folks who deal with her will soon find out the truth and a guardian will be appointed for her to manage her affairs.
The Bible says to "honor" our parents, not to let them destroy our lives. And by the way, the Bible also says that you can ask the community to assist you in stoning your oppositional child to death. Interesting book, that.
I'm curious how it came to be that you took her into your home. Did you set up a caregiving contract? And if do, what are the provisions for ending it?
In any event, you need to see a lawyer to protect YOUR rights and your health.