healthcare staff have said husband needs to be in facility - too many falls (6-8) in a two week timeframe due to memory, disorientation, dehydration, poor nutrition, improper medication distribution. Wife insists she can care for him. Discharged from hospital with understanding that there will be 24 hour caregivers at home $$$ (not sustainable). Family need to move him out of house to more affordable 24 care but wife insists she can't be without husband.
They can be pricey--check around your area and see what's available.
When my Dad had a mild hear attack, Mom was in denial he had one, she thought it would make her look like a bad wife.... [sigh]. She insisted she could take care of Dad.... hello, she was 91 at the time. They slept in the living room because no way she could help Dad upstairs to the bedrooms. When Dad fell, which was almost daily, she couldn't pick him up. But she still insisted it was "her job" to take care of him.
logicvsheart123, hope someone can convince your Dad's wife that her husband needs a higher level of care, and let's look for a nice place for the both of them. There are independent living facilities around that offer higher level of care for a spouse, and both can live in the same apartment.
My Dad lived at Sunrise Senior Living, in a really nice two bedroom apartment. Eventually he needed some of the higher levels of care... such as med tech for medicine maintenance, and night service to help him have a shower and get ready for bed. Dad was a fall risk, thus the facility had him wear a medical alert pendent [for a fee].
Eventually Dad had to move to Assisted Living/Memory Care center in the same complex as his dementia was starting to progress, and so was his falling. It wasn't unusual for a husband and wife to be in the same complex, one in IL and one in AL. Doing that can be very expensive, but worth it if one's budget can handle it.
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