She is bent over constantly and chokes a lot. We have had to lock her ands dogs meds up because she gets it all mixed up. And she's developed OCD about certain things. Even neurologist thinks she's rapidly worsening but latest. Brain scan didn't appear to show any marked changes. She's starting to have a few accidents but. We can't tell if its just that she couldn't get there in time? Newest trend us going to bathroom every 20 min. And chasing us outside when we leave for work. Clearly she's not mentally understanding everything anymore. Worried about how much longer she has and how much longer before she can't be cared for at home. She fell as she does a lot but this time fractureed her nose. Scared for her. Still don't know how it happened cuz she can't say anything and we were home!
In-home care is the best option, if you can do it or afford it. If not, and your only option will be a nursing home at some time in the future; keep in mind that the waiting lists are long and it's not cheap. We found out the best thing to do is wait until an incident occurs (a fall, etc) and then have your parent taken to the emergency room. From there the hospital can send them to a nursing home for rehabilitation, and Medicare will pay for it for a certain amount of time. We didn't have to go that route, but it is good to know ahead of time.
Good luck; I know how hard it is to cope with the situation, and I hope for the best for you.
It sounds to me like she has dementia. Has she been diagnosed?