My 86 year old Mom has been in and out of hospitals and rehab facilities since early November 2021. 2 years prior, she had so many health challenges: heart stents, removal of part of colon, congestive heart failure and Stage 4/borderline Stage 5 Kidney Failure. Yet, she's come out of each challenge although weaker every time.
In February, she was back at her home, living independently, driving, appeared to be "on the mend." In March, she had shortness of breath, low oxygen and went back into the hospital. Her kidney function was still Stage 4/borderline Stage 5. Oxygen demand very high. There was fluid around her heart. After about 6 days of treatment, doctors approached her about hospice care as an option. She admitted that she did not want to "fight" this anymore so she agreed to go into a very nice, reputable hospice facility. All of her doctors signed off on the paperwork admitting that they thought she had less than 6 months to live.
When she arrived, she was very weak with nausea but relaxed. But, she deteriorated quickly. She's been in hospice care for about 25 days as I post this. What is really frightening is how angry and vicious she has become. She keeps trying to get out of her bed without help. Even though she is on meds for pain and anxiety she is restless all night. My sibling and I have avoided calling her or visiting because she is so mean to us when we are there, accusing us of abandoning her, leaving her to die. She is very lucid but the things she says and does scare us. Visiting her does not seem to comfort her it seems like a trigger for her anger. It's not comforting for us either.
Has anyone been through this and what's the best way to deal with this? The hospice staff where she is at are wonderful so that is not the issue.
Praise The Lord that her last couple days of transition were peaceful. May The Lord give you all grieving mercies and comfort during this new season in life.
Wishing you peace and comfort.