Parents are in a very unfriendly house. Multiple stairs, lots of repairs required with low cash flow, and both are in deteriorating health. One wants to leave but the other refuses. We have no idea how to proceed. I'm looking into support groups. Both my spouse and I are new to caregiving. Things need to change fast. I know there are resources out there but do not know where to look. I would appreciate advice.
I agree with Chicago above, do not enable them too much. I was enabling until I realized my parent had no need to move elsewhere, I was there too much to help out. My parents can afford to hire help, now my Dad grumbles he has to pay someone.... well, far better he hire someone than me falling off a ladder at 68 years old :P
Other than, that - my sister and I had to walk away and hope that it worked out. It did. Mother fell, went to the hospital and was never allowed to go home, again. Mother is 96 and very well, now that she is being taken care off.
Do not enable them, too much. Make certain they can call for help and make yourself scarce.