My sister has restricted me from seeing my mom but only on Saturdays with another person for two months now. My sister POA said I was making my mom dislike her. Now that the cnn comes she hears what my mom had always said before. My mom always talks about how mean my sister is (which is true) I would usually say something like well I can do this or that for you. Because she said the POA would not do anything for her. I want to know if that would be legal? She is as guilty as me, but I can't see my mom now, but POA can? From Arkansas. This legal system is all messed up!
Isn't there a better way to give your wife access to spending money, though? How does she buy the things she wants - online, do you take her shopping, or what?
checking account.He broke us. I finally had to have all my checks sent to another account. The old account is still in her name and she will give him what she has in it which is $900.00 a month. She has dementia but I want her to be able to buy what she wants. He steals every time he comes to see her . Silver ware, cologne anything rings . I do not want him around our house.
I know a guy who wanted to keep his Mom in her home. She had been showing signs of Dementia for years. Her neighbor had lived nxt to this woman for over 60 yrs. She (and my nurses) had been telling him she should not be alone. She had the money for an AL he just didn't want to spend it.
When working for the Visiting Nurses I had a call from a patients son. He wanted to know if his Mom wrote one of the nurses a check. Since they were all out on rounds I couldn't answer his question. When my boss came backshe called him. He was really accusing our nurses of steeling. My boss called his mother and found out she had a friend take her to the bank to cash a check. Boss called son and told him. Also told him the POA didn't keep his Mom from spending her money. I guess he had gotten strict with her money when she allowed him a POA.
Trust me, with this family, I might as well prepare for a court room when he passes. I am not looking forward to it. It will cost them a great deal of money. I will not invest any money to defend myself. If the courts find that I was not ethical or morally correct in any of my decisions, that will be fine. I keep excellent journals on his daily care, drugs and nurse visits. I have introduced myself to all of his Investment companies and have made sure that we have in place a back up Trustee in the event that I become ill or die. I am looking out for him if I am not in the picture. Why would anyone take on this job if they could not rely on the POA's. I would be a fool. And, I know right from wrong. I am sure there are bad people out there who would take advantage of any situation, but I keep in mind my faith, my promises to care for my Sweetheart and I also keep his family in mind. In our case, his family has not been nice to him. Why would I ever submit him to this?
I am happy the courts are there for elderly when someone takes advantage of them. But, I know there are a lot of reasons you hear "she won't let me do this or that"...The whole story needs to be heard before you can possibly draw any conclusion. If Power of Attorneys are meant to be broken, what good are they?
Just my opinion.
Although my sibling refuses to divulge anything to me about my parent using the POA power over me, I've NEVER resigned myself to feeling like it's over & there's nothing I can do.
As a matter of fact, where I live, it is illegal to keep a child from their parent UNLESS my dad said that HE doesn't went to see me.
The home/facility where our parents now live have to adhere to the Demands of the POA because they're being paid by the POA for room/board etc...on a stack of Bibles, goto the home with a police officer who is versed in your situation, your loved ones situation and see what happens...I saw my dad, who tearfully "ran" into my open arms (he uses a walker but he walked as fast as I've seen him walk in years).
It's funny (not really but for lack of a better word) what happens when we as
non-POA family members can achieve with knowledge.
Read read read the rights of the POA as it adheres to your state...government Internet sites
I hope to have helped, I'm not trying to give false hope but the latter is my story or part of it anyways...
Sending bigs hugs of strength and love