I am my mothers RP, her medical poa and her regular poa. . She has dementia, doesn't even know who we are some times. Because she got mad in her demntia she said she doesnt want to see me. ( I have always been super close with Mom so this breaks my heart, it is medication related because SNF put her on meds that I had told them not to put her on because it makes her more confused and she was on it 17 days before I found out) The nursing home even moved her room without notifying me and they physically block me and will not allow me to go see her. I have told them I want to move her to a different facility but they are refusing to allow her to be moved. I live in Virginia and I just filed a complaint against the SNF for the medication errors. I have no way of knowing that Mom even knows who they are talking about when they say she does not want me to visit her. We live in a very rural area and noone seems to take on these kind of legal cases, even tho I cannot afford an attorney I would get one if I could find one to represent me. Mom has had issues like this before with medication and when she is "in her right mind" she doesnt believe she does these things. We were talking about this a month or so ago(I always went to see her every day, all this nightmare happened while I was on vacation) and she had told me that we needed to go tell the administrator that if she ever told them she didnt want to see me to ignore her and realize she must be confused...Unfortunately, I didnt do this, I wish now I had....Any suggestions you can give me would be appreciated
Consider very carefully whether to nmove your mom. If there is some sort of miscommunication or misunderstanding work with the SNF to get it cleared up. A move is going to be very difficult for your mom. How long has she been at this facility? A move for anyone with dementia will cause a rapid, substantial decline. Consider this very carefully. If the SNF feels you are not acting in mom's best interest, they are required by law to do what is necessary to protect her, even if you are the POA, and probably especially if you are the POA.
Of course, if there's more to this story, which I expect there is, after you've done this, they may put a restraining order against you.
If you want to move her then I would just go ahead and secure a place for her at your desired location and make the arrangements. Inform the administrator in writing of your intent and include a stern warning from your lawyer confirming that you are acting with legal authority and expect their cooperation.