There is a lot of family feuding between the actual brothers and sisters and some of the grandkids had to step up and take care of my grandmother. But I think my grandmother is being taken advantage of. The grandson that has durable POA has recently tried to get legal guardianship of my grandmother but the judge denied it. His wife found out if he received legal guardianship that she could get a check from the state for taking care of her and now since the judge did not grant it they are using grandma like a pawn between the family members. She was just recently diagnosed with dementia. We wanted to get her tested last year but the POA would not let us. It is like we got to go through him to take of grandma. Need some answers on what to do. Thanks.
Think very carefully about having joint POA, however. That means that BOTH people must agree on EVERY decision. In most cases it is better to have a POA and an alternate in case the POA is unable or unwilling to perform duties.