My 90 year old Father has several physical issues (heart condition, diabetes, etc.) and is doing fairly well with his medications. My question is how do I tell him that we've discussed something without saying "You remember" when I know that he doesn't remember? He has always had a fairly good memory but is, understandably, beginning to suffer some memory loss. For instance, today he told the home health nurse that the dermatologist has not looked at the spot on his neck when, in fact, he has looked at it several times. What phrase or words can I use? He gets so embarrassed (and frightened I would guess) that he doesn't remember something so I'd like to find the most compassionate way to say "You remember".