My GMA in a nursing home just called an Aunt to tell her they've been making her go to bed at 5:30 pm, "because there is only one worker there after that time" and she can't ready the patients for bed alone. My Aunt checked it out, and witnessed an argument take place between a daytime boss and that worker, apparently the person DID actually tell GMA that! The place just got written up, 9 violations, they have trouble keeping help because they pay several bucks an hour less that the other NHs in the area. There are about 45 residents there, can they really leave them in the care of only ONE staff member over night? Is this maybe a good night to try and get an official to "drop by" and catch them at this?
Then to medicate her so heavily.....one thing you might caution your aunts on is watching for MRSA - with overuse of antibiotics, in a nursing home situation, being compromised because of the infection....she's at a higher risk for it.
If you can visit her I would do so while it's possible, not so much because of her being in a hospice room but just because it sounds like she could use some cheering up and seeing family could do that.
I would also suggest that both you and the aunts document anything that is amiss; you may wish to file a complaint at some time and that documentation will help.
In the meantime, any support you could offer the aunts to find a better place for her might be helpful, even if there are waiting lists. Your aunts may be in a quandary and unsettled about their experiences and your support might help.
I hope they find a better place for her, soon.
You can try to get someone to "drop by" but I think I would begin working on finding another place for your grandmother - starting right now.
If this really is the situation, the care isn't going to be anywhere near what you or your aunt want. Being put to bed at 5:30 is probably the tip of the iceberg.
I once chose a facility which on inspection and tour seemed outstanding, but it was a weekend, I had to find something quickly, and I completely forgot to ask about staff to patient ratios. When I realized how bad the situation was, I had to act quickly to change facilities, and even though I was successful, there were a few unpleasant days with very poor service, some evidence of incompetency and an upset parent.