Hello, I’m having a hard time getting over resentment towards my sister for not helping my mother. I just can’t get it through my head that family can be like that. My mother has recently passed away and she is also not doing her executor duties. I’m just struggling with the resentment. Is it ok I am resentful and that our relationship might be over because I just can’t accept the type of person she is?
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Im sorry you don't get any help. I pretty much have done 99% of the running around when there is something medical, legal, banking, bill paying, personal whatever..etc for my mom(and dad deceased). If you want your relationship with your sister then you do have to accept the type of person she is. If you can not accept who she is...and she got on your very last nerve, then its ok to end the relationship. I have come to realize that my sister and I will probably never be close. We are just too different. Its not *just* that we are different...(and that's a BIG 'different') but with the above 99% thing. Even *without* the 99% parent responsibility....Our relationship was always shaky. I think I will be happier not pushing or expecting anything more. Im ok with that. I try to get along because my mom is still living, after that.....well.....she will always be my sister. I would help her if she really needed help. but otherwise. im done.
I think sis not doing anything for Mom is just going to have to be let go. Just know, you can't depend on her. You don't have a relationship with her either.