I have been caregiver for my mom for several years. She had a fall and a subdural hematoma about 6 weeks ago. They performed surgery and I am not sure this was the right thing to do. She was sweet afterwards and now she is crazy. I think my siblings have turned her against me.
We met with the doctor and priest with hopes of discussing her care. Instead they went into attack mode. It was horrific and the doctor walked out. Then they put a 30 day eviction notice on the door (illegal-law is 60 days) which is fixed now. This past weekend my oldest brother POA threatened me with foul language on answering machine. Came over unannounced with 2 sisters. I called the police as well as the neighbor.
The 3 oldest siblings have taken over and it is horrible what they are doing. They cut her phone off with no referral. I am sure friends will think she is dead, and I found out today she was moved from the rehab and they told me they cannot tell me where she is. They said my mom did not want me to know! Unbelievable!
The last couple times I saw her she was mean and accusing me of things like using her money! I think they are feeding her this garbage.
These are siblings that did nothing for her and all came together after this fall. I have done everything for her and they complained I mooched off of her. I am so sick I could scream. Let me tell you about the tears I have shed over this.
My caregiver counselor who worked with mental health patients, said my family is crazy. Has anyone ever seen this type of behavior? All 6, that I know of have banded together. So sick.
I have been advised by many to walk away and say good bye to my mom. That was the plan, but now I have no idea where she is. I plan on packing up and leaving the country for awhile. All the years of taking care of her and this is what I get? I remember someone told me years ago, I would be blamed regardless. How can this happen? These people who I find it hard to believe I am related to are really sick puppies!
With the information you've given us here, I'd say you've made the right decision. Sometimes we have to be satisfied just knowing that WE did the right thing regardless of what others may think or say.
In my opinion, one against six is a futile battle to fight. I think you've made the right decision about leaving. Sometimes life is very unfair.
"Lay low for a while" would be my advice. And then try to reach out and make more sense of it all.