We were advised to tell my MIL that was moved into AL during an intense medical crisis, involving hallucinations, that the drs. said she needed to be there for now. She does not believe she needs help. Her Primary Care Dr- who has not seen her in person for almost 2 years- told her over a video appointment that she should go home for a week to see how it goes. We live 40 minutes from her, she lives alone, she has fallen, and the police have “recommended” that she not live alone anymore. She is now focused on this. She is doing very well in AL, with proper nutrition, medication control, and exercise. Has anyone tried this or had this recommendation made to their family member?
If you do this/attempt this, I think it is crucial that you not "enable this" and that you pretend that YOU live not only 40 minutes away, but rather that you live a state away. IF you enable it I believe you both will go down under it. Make it clear that your Mom should try this out, and that you will check on her, perhaps become POA and handle her bills, etc. But that you will not be seeing her more than once a week on a weekend, and you will not be chief cook and bottle washer.
I also think it is crucial that your Mom is of somewhat solid state of mind, rational, as my bro was. It is of concern to me that the police had a feeling she was not, clearly, and don't know the details.
I wish you good luck. Don't give up her room if she has a good one. And hope that she comes to the realization on her own that this isn't the right move for her. And again, if her mind is not sound enough this move/this experiment should be out of the question.