My Mother has shun me, my Daughters, and husband but has no reason to do so. My Mom's grandson was accused of molesting a girl, denied it, and then avoided answering any questions. Through the years I knew he was guilty and I refused to let my girls/family around him. My mom feel I should forget about it and apologize for my actions.my actions involved asking questions. Since all this happened my mother has shun us, had family events behind my back, and tried to get in my business. When I try to talk to her about it she says in crazy. I hate that we all have no relationship but she has made it clear that on Mother's Day , thanksgiving , & Christmas she wants us nowhere around. Things have been happening in the family but she shares nothing.They will lie about taking family trips together as my mother pays. She constantly gives money to all of them and is hateful to me. I don't care about the money. My question is if she needs to go in a home or receive care my sister would not have the money to help. She could possibly not be educated to handle questions that arise. I know they don't want me around so do I break ties now ? What do I do when they need money or someone to care for her? I don't feel I should provide this. I send her gifts and respect her but I don't feel it is right to support after all she has put me through. I and my family have received the ultimate pain to me I no longer seem to have a mom
Now that is a hard, hard scenario for any family, let alone any mother, to cope with. Are you up to a few questions about it? I'd like to know a little more about the ages of the children when this happened, how long ago it was, and whether anyone else was involved in dealing with the incident. Or incidents?
Break ties if you wish, though it doesn't sound as if you have any ties to break, really. If I were going to formally do that, I'd send her a letter, assuming you love her, and express your sadness that your relationship with her has deteriorated to where it has, thank her for giving you life, and let her know that you would try to be there for her if she needed you. That should feel good from your perspective. I just don't know what else you could do.
We simply can't choose our family...I'm sorry for you.