My 92 yr. old Mom has been living with me for over 8 years and the time has come for her to move to an assisted living facility. She wants to move to Las Vegas or Florida where she has friends. I live in the Northeast and think she should be closer to me. She doesn't value the help and care I have given her so it makes sense that she is willing to move away. Although, it would be less expensive to have her move to either of these places and easier for me, I do feel conflicted because I know better. She, however, is very stubborn and says that I am not her Boss. Any thoughts on this matter is appreciated!
My mom recently died in a hospice house with end stage Parkinson’s disease and mild dementia. I can’t imagine my mom not having been nearby.
This is your decision to make. Having your mom near you is not only for your benefit but also for your mom. Not to be disrespectful of your mom, but she needs your help more than you need her to be happy with your decision. You can live with her being dissatisfied, as unpleasant as it may be.
You are the one who will be called upon for decisions to be made. Her ‘friends’ don’t have any say in her care. For all you know, they won’t even visit her.
I hope things will work out as smoothly as they possibly can. Best wishes to you and your mom.
This is not optional. When she falls in AL and is transported to the ER, she will be there alone until the GCM gets there.
When she needs new clothes, toiletries, snacks, thr GCM will be doing those tasks.
When there are questions about her insurance, when she needs to see a specialist, the GCM will see to it.
In dementia, logic often flies out the window. In your mom's case, I would give her the choice of where she wants to be, but with a GCM if it's not near you.