Hi I'm new here. My mother was in a nursing home for a month and a half. She has dementia,depression and anxiety. She had stopped eating and drinking she just did not want to be here anymore. Before she went into the nursing home she was going to the bathroom with my help. So anyway when I. go to pick her up no one told me she had to wear diapers and had a catheter. I didn't know this until I got home. And someone stole her new clothes that I just bought her. And to me it seems like my mother was not better she seems worse off now then when she left. She's vomiting everywhere and not feeling good at all. I can't even change her diapers it's too hard for me I cry everytime. I think this is too much for me I. don't know what to do? They put her on hospice but they only come 2 times a week they won't even change her diapers. Is that right, I don't know? So should I send her back?
In Home Hospice the family still has most of the responsibility. A nurse comes out 2 or 3x a week to check vitals. You should be able to get her 24/7 if something is wrong or u have a question. You should be supplied an aide maybe 3x a week to bathe Mom. While she is there, she should be changing diapers. You should be given enough time to run errands. At least 2 hrs. While the aide is there, she can show you how to change a diaper easily.
Was your mother originally in for rehab? If so Medicare was helping with the cost. If discharged its because it was felt there was no more that could be done. If u place her, it will be private pay or Medicaid.
You could call Medicaid and if Mom meets the criteria, you may be able to get homecare.
You may want to call the Nurse about the vomiting. Make sure you keep Mom hydrated. It could be a medication she is on causing the problem.