Need your help again, friends. If you read my babbling, you now that this year has already been a nightmare for us. Hubby was rushed to the ER on January 4th with what I firmly believe was Coronavirus. He’s been in hospital/rehab since then and will be coming home tomorrow.
I work 5 hours a day, 5 days a week at a small daycare. These ladies have become like family to me. I make next to nothing and until I sit down to figure out our financial in-come and out-go, I’m not even sure how much difference this small paycheck even makes. It’s more of an “escape” for me—a break from caring for my husband.
He wants me to quit my job. I am currently laid off due to the pandemic and the director says she believes daycares will not open up much before mid-summer. So, I’ll be without a paycheck for approximately 4-5 months anyway. Hubby says I’m “too old” (I’m 66) to work any longer. And when I come home exhausted, I know it does impact my caregiving.
However, although he is not super-demanding, he is bedridden and I do everything for him but feed him. He also has me under a microscope. He questions my every move and makes suggestions as to something else I should be doing. He thinks I need to be doing housework from sunup to sundown.
I am completely on the fence. Hubby is still not well and could very well wind up back in a facility. Do I want to give up this job and face being alone for the rest of my life?
If the daycare is going to be closed for a few more months, you have time to go over your finances and carefully consider your decision.
Are you able to go for a walk around the block when hubby is stressing you out? Lock yourself in the bathroom with a book for 20 minutes? Lol. Take care of yourself too!
No need to rush into anything permanent just yet.
Hang in there!
God bless!!
If it's a few months away before you can go back, what's the point of quitting?
If you go back and find that it is all too much, then give notice.
But to be under the microscope all day, with no way out, that sounds very scary and isolating. Keep the job, you may get tired, but it sounds to me like the job has meaning in your life, besides just money.
Take good care of yourself, and when your husband starts telling you what to do, address him calmly, say things like;
When ..........happens
I feel ................
I would like ..............
Or I will need to ................
And if that means you need to take yourself away from him, then do it. Don't be bullied by him, do your best to curtail that now, because controlling behaviour is hard enough to deal with, let alone with all the physical tasks you have to do.
Take good care of yourself.