Mom is 93 with Dementia. She still knows who each of us are but forgets things. She is in the dementia section of a senior living center. Dad passed away several years ago but she insists she talked to him the other day. She is always asking where he is. My brother passed away last Friday but we haven't told Mom yet because of the Covid19 restrictions. We visit through a window. What should we do?
Has she asked about him?
If the answer to both of these is no then I would not tell her. It will upset her and there is enough stress and upset not being able to visit "normally" with family and friends.
If she has asked about him and he had been a recent visitor then tell her ONE TIME. After the one time it is "He is at the store" "he went on vacation" he is on his way but the traffic is bad" you can make up any excuse that will work for that moment.