Well she didn't show so I drove the 80 miles came back to mom ..still no show well grandbaby had basket ball game so we loaded mom up and drove back the 80 miles to watch game. Shopped and got a room ..here's my problem we have a spring break vacation plan my boys and grandbaby. After this ordeal I'm afraid my sister will not show. I am so shocked and mad. And feel llike I need to address it now.
Why couldn't the parent(s) of your grandson take him to the basketball game? Why did you have your Mom endure an 160 mile trip [probably three hours in the car] with her medical issues? Who was watching your Mom when you made your first 80 mile trip to get your grandson and another 80 miles back home? Who watched your Mom while you all were at the basketball game?
I would have waited at the house with Mom before even heading out to pick up the grandson, and when your sister didn't show up, I would have cancelled the trip to see the basketball game. Did your sister not come because of the weather, depending on where you live? Did she have the weekends mixed up?
Though actually, I'd have done that when she didn't show. Did you try to get hold of her?
What are mom's resources? What are her impairments? What help is she eligible for? Are there day programs she could attend? It takes time and effort to figure this stuff out. Can sister do the research, in exchange for not being asked to do hands on care?