Mom has terminal cancer. I want to spend more time with this woman who used to be sharp as a tack. Now that her mind is slipping fast, I find it very hard to watch her slide away. How do I beging to cope with the fact that I can only spend so little time with her before I start falling apart myself?
she feels your love-because u r part of eachother-
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quality time helped me go thru it and you will feel you did your best when the time comes, and more important "God Knows too"
He will see you thru it. He said "I will never leave you" and that's the truth.
He will not forsake you at your hour of need. I am a Christian and If you are a Christian, then just believe in your heart He will help you in your time of need.
May God bless you.
Sending you a hug for today - (((( ))))
There is no easy way to help someone transition into the next life, if that is your belief. We can only do our best, while acknowledging that we are human and can only handle so much.
I can see that you already know your limits. Do not try to do more than you are already doing. If you feel overwhelmed, do not visit on that day. When you have more energy and feel more centered, stay longer and do little things that will add to her comfort. Think of all the senses: can you bring flowers or bring naturally scented items into her room? play soft music? bring lotion for her hands and arms? or throw a colorful comforter on her bed?
I think that our presence is the greatest gift we can give someone who is nearing the end of her or his life.
Do what only what you can do...she knows how you feel about her.