We are the primary caregiver for 2.5 years of my mother-in-law (she is 94). She lives in Assisted Living and we see her every day. My brother-in-law lives in China and sees her 3-4 times a year. He is constantly threatening us with lawsuits because he doesn't like a doctor or medication she is on or methods of care we are providing. He thinks we are trying to kill her. She is in seriously poor health and may pass soon. He is also threatening to sue her doctors. Do we have anything to worry about?
You have not neglected nor abused her, he has no basis for a law suit.
He may not like the meds the docs prescribe, is he even a doctor and does he have access to her daily detailed patient info to have an informed opinon. If not, he is just another fool with an uninformed opinion. He can waste his time and money filing suit against the MD, they would just counter sue and spend each other's time and money. The doctors are doing something right if mom is 94 and still breathing!
You have nothing to worry about, instead of causing you stress he should be praising and thanking you for caring for his mother. Let's hope he stays on China, we do not need any more lawsuit threatening fools.
Since he has not told you, Congratulations, you are doing a great job!
I think you have nothing to worry about. I take it that he is your spouse's brother? Your spouse should tell him calmly, "We are doing the best we can. I'm sorry you do not approve. You go ahead and take whatever legal action you feel compelled to take."
I know a couple of people who are always threatening to sue someone. Nothing ever comes of it.
I wish you, your mother-in-law and your family...peace.
My oldest sister did the same thing when our mother died. Mama had lymphoma (8 years), diabetes (27 years), one kidney, glaucoma(she was blind) and severe neuropathy. She had lost weight from a hefty 180 down to about 110 and was basically bed bound. Big sis was angry and threatening to sue the doctors, X-ray techs, nurses and hospital when Mama finally slipped into a coma while having yet another hopeless radiation treatment. We had a family meeting 3 days later and all agreed to disconnect, except for big sis. She then accused the rest of us of killing our own mother. She did go see several lawyers and none would take the case. She just had to handle it in her own way.
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