They're not letting me see my father who just had a ischemic stroke. Before my father's wife Anna found out that she is dying. She called two of her daughters and her favorite grand daughter Stephanie with two small kids to meet with them at their house. Anna told my father that she wants Stephanie and her two small kids to move in and imposed on her two daughters to be my father's caretakers. They did this without me and my sister knowing what's going on(we are the biological children ) After my father's wife died. My Dad and my uncle Mike paid for her burial. Dad inherited the house...well, the house is in both name. Since then those Step sisters keep coming to my dad's house a lot. We the biological kids hate that family! I'm like what happened to "Death do us apart".All they caused stress and confusion for my dad! I feel that I shouldn't compete for my dad. He is my father! They have their own father. I asked them not to be around my dad or at dad's house when I am visiting him. They can not respect this! They must be around and causing problems. They are the trigger to this problems. Can I sue them?
Wouldn't the most simple solution be for your father to tell his stepdaughters, "Could you please leave for a little while, so I can visit privately with my daughter"? It is his house and unless he is totally incompetent and has a guardian he gets to say who is in his house. What would you sue over?
I am very, very sorry that you don't have a good relationship with these people who were so important in your father's life. Bringing up the "death do us part" thing sounds like you blame these women for the end of your father's marriage. Is that realistic?
Could you possibly start over, meet with these women, agree that you all want what is best for your father, and offer to cooperate with them? That would be extremely hard, I'm sure, but it would be wonderful.
My two sons and my husband's three daughters got along splendidly, and all 5 were involved in his care. Now that he is gone they continue to get along, socialize with each other, invite each other to life milestones, etc. A blended family can be an opportunity to have more people in your circle of love. I am so sorry it isn't like that for you.
It doesn't sound like they are preventing you from visiting your dad. You may be able to get a court order if that were the case. But they merely refuse to leave if you show up when they are there. I doubt there is a law against that.
Try extending the olive branch... work together as a team to help your Dad.
Curious, how did you and your sister allow your step-sisters keep you both out of the family life? Apparently these step-daughters care very deeply about your Dad if they are still part of his life and being a caregiver. And it sounds like they are allowing you to visit your Dad, I don't think it should matter if they are there in the house or not. Apparently they have their reasons.
Your father MARRIED this woman. Of course he would pay for the burial. Who do you think should have paid for it? Why didn't he take out insurance on her?
Be very careful what you say and do when you are there. Take some anti-anxiety meds before you go there. If it gets ugly, kiss Dad and leave.
But unless your father is deemed incompetent by a doctor, then your father can do as he pleases with his life and his resources. If he wants to disinherit you and leave everything to step siblings, he can do that.
I'm sorry that the relationship with step siblings is so bad, but for the sake of having a relationship with your father (IF that is what you really want), why not try to plan a few visits with him? If he wants to see you, he has the ability to do that, yes?