Mother is 88. I take her supper everyday. Take her to all dr. appts and all her shopping. Living on a very slim income through SSI. I do all her lawn care, laundry, clean her house, etc. I have been told I could be getting paid for this care. She's on Medicare and owns her house. I have 4 siblings but I am the one taking care of her. If it's possible in this situation to get paid can you tell me exactly how to do it. Thank you.
Selling the house would disqualify her for Medicaid until she spends down the money. Has to be sold at Market Value.
Nobody likes this kind of change, but we must do what we need to do to be able to live. She doesn't get to make all the decisions if she is not paying her own way. Whomever has a financial dog in the fight has a say.
She has to have a medical need for assistance and it doesn't sound like she has anything that would qualify. Everything you do for her is tending to chores, not her. Those don't qualify for ADLs. Well, cooking might, but meals on wheels would solve that need.
Is your Mom able to keep up the cost of owning a house, such a property taxes, utilities, house insurance, trash pickup, cable, repairs, etc.? It may be time for her to downsize and use the equity from the house for a more manageable senior apartment. As you and I age, that lawn will double in size every year :P
It could be the siblings aren't helping because they know it is time to downsize. And if they were to help out, then Mom would never move. I had that with my own Mom, she would never downsize.... Dad on the other hand would, if giving a chance, start packing in a NY minute.